First, let’s talk a little bit about stalking. Then, I’ll show you specific sites that people can use to find your address, public records about you, and more. After we do that, I will help you get that information off the Internet.

Stalking is one area where technology has outraced the law. Few federal laws specifically address cyberstalking. In most cases, you’ll need to rely on state laws.

There are several types of stalkers. Each type has its motives.

In your case, the stalker is seeking revenge. Your actions thwarted his scam. He probably perceives this as a loss of income. Also, he could face criminal charges for scamming others.

Fortunately, the dispute is happening in cyberspace. Usually, such online situations do not escalate into the real world. This does not mean that you should take the matter lightly.

He could be unhinged

The stalker could come to find you. For example, one man traveled 1,300 miles to burn another man’s home. The reason? The victim called him a nerd on a popular photo-sharing site. You never know who is on the other side of the keyboard.

Hopefully, your stalker isn’t that dedicated. He may give up and go away. So, do not respond to his messages, no matter how inflammatory. Responses will only encourage him.

Since you mentioned an eBay transaction with the stalker, he probably knows your name and address. An e-mail response might disclose something else. It could reveal your name or where you work. Also, a message will contain your IP address. This might tip him to where you live or work.

You need to find out what is posted about you online. Look at your e-mail address and eBay user name. Can these connect you to your real name and location?

The stalker may be able to find your name and address another way, say with a quick search. He may also be able to find out more than that. Click here for sites that can be used to find people.

In that case, you’ll want to remove this information from the Internet, if possible. This is easier said than done. But it is worth a try. For tips on this, click here.

Back on eBay

You should also change your eBay user name. This will be a hassle, and you’ll lose any positive feedback. Your safety is worth the sacrifice, though.

Your first instinct may be to change your e-mail address. This may not be a good idea. It sounds like the messages are disturbing. But they give you insight into the stalker’s mind.

For example, the messages may reveal what the stalker knows about you. You will also see if his threats are escalating. Additionally, the messages are important evidence. The authorities will need the messages if they are to act on your case.

Keep all of the messages the stalker has sent. You’ll want to keep both electronic and printed copies for at least a year.

All of this advice is defensive. It will help you mitigate the threat the stalker poses and discourage his actions. Hopefully, this is all you need.

If things continue, you’ll need to take a more active approach. I can’t help you decide when, though. On one hand, you should act as soon as possible. On the other hand, stalkers often become enraged when victims seek outside help. Contacting the police could make the stalker more aggressive.